Hello beauties 💖 🌼 Today I’ve decided to focus on a bit more personal topic and share the things I wish I stopped sooner. It surely feels damn good to realize that I was able to make the changes I’ll talk about, and yet sometimes I’m struggling to quit feeling regret about all the time and effort I’ve wasted doing these things! Without further ado, let’s get started!
1.Denying my own femininity. It’s truly a topic that deserves a whole post of its own – femininity and its meaning. For many reasons, I grew up with a wrong perception of femininity – I grew up thinking that it meant to be weak, feebly gentle, and powerless in many ways. A ‘damsel in distress’ if you will. Over the years I’ve rediscovered femininity – a real, raw power that women possess, but rarely stay in touch with. To me femininity is the power women have when they embrace their womanhood, when they enjoy being who they are. To be empowered women don’t need to take the power from men – we need to embrace ourselves. I find such role models as Dita Von Teese very inspiring in this sense – I’ve devoted a whole post to her.
2.Taking my skin for granted. In my very early 20s I thought that a lightweight cream (any cream really) and a face wash were completely enough for my skin. I ignored the fact that my face wash was too drying and the cream left my skin feeling and looking dull. I got my wake-up call when I looked in the mirror one day and noticed wrinkles around my eyes. Since then I’ve started taking my skin care seriously and found my own awesome skin care routine, but still I wish I’d start doing it earlier.
3.Not personalizing my diet. We’ve all got an understanding of what healthy diet is, but the fact that every one has their own version of such diet isn’t talked about that much. Even without having food allergies and intolerances, we still have foods that the body works the best with and those that cause some negative effects. For me it was the elimination diet that helped set my diet straight – I’ve discovered that I was sensitive to gluten, sugar, and dairy. Minimizing or completely eliminating these foods from my diet helped me improve my skin, the quality of my sleep, reduce bloating, and reduce allergies (inflammations caused by wrong foods compromized my immune system).
Read more: My Exeprience With Elimination Diet
4.Not leaving my comfort zone in terms of style. I used to dress only for comfort and completely disregarded the aesthetics. As a student, I was too busy studying and refused to pay more attention and effort into my appearance. I’ve always taken good care of my clothes and was always extremely tidy, but I wasn’t ready to step out of my comfort zone when it came to style. Over the years I’ve changed my attitude to style and started viewing it as a form of art in itself, it fascinates me, and now I enjoy it a lot! I missed out on a lot of fun for sure.
5.Tolerating toxic ‘friends’. I find it to be true that the more we surround ourselves with optimistic and confident people, the more we become more optimistic and confident ourselves. The problem with toxic ‘friends’ is that they are miserable and – intentionally or not – make it their mission to make everyone else around them miserable too, so that they wouldn’t feel bad about themselves. Toxic ‘friends’ are never really able to be genuinely happy about someone else’s achievements and happiness because they are deeply unhappy.
Today, I have strict rules when it comes to friendships: if I feel like I’m emotionally drained after seeing or talking to someone, if I can’t remember the last time my friend was genuinely happy for me or selflessly helped me, and if I feel like someone makes subtle derogatory remarks about me masking them as ‘jokes’, these aren’t the people who’ll stay in my life. I’ve learned to prioritize my mental health and setting boundaries to not let the negativity in.
6.Buying cheap things to ‘save money‘. I was pretty guilty of this before – going for a cheaper alternative just because it was cheaper, while I could pay a bit more and get much better quality and lower cost-per-wear. Buying poor quality things ultimately made me spend more because I had to replace them more often. Of course, I buy cheap things strategically, but I look for quality in staple items and investment pieces first and foremost now. Besides, I’ve learned to find good quality items at reasonable prices too.
7.Experimenting with my hair on a whim. I’ve tried it all – pixie cut, blunt bob, layers, very long hair, bangs and no bangs. I’ve also experimented with color and changed my natural chestnut color into caramel color, light chestnut, copper, and even dark chestnut color. All these experiments wrecked havoc on my hair and it seemed that I was always trying to repair it, while all I needed to do was leave it alone.
Coco Chanel once said that “When a woman changes her hair, pay attention; she’s about to change her life” and I think that was the case with me. When I wanted changes, I always did something with my hair and most of the time it was completely unnecessary. Now I’m happy with the way it is and I’ve learned not to make hasty decisions anymore.
I’m really curious though: does anyone else have such tendency – changing hairstyle as a sign that you’ve changed the way you think or the way you see yourself or that you strive for changes in your life? I’m incredibly interested to know about your experience!
Today I look at these things from a philosophical point of view – I consider them as experiences necessary for my growth. That is the beauty of life – to grow and go through hardships to become wiser and stronger.
As always, thank you for reading and I’m looking forward to reading and responding to your comments 💕💕💕
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